When we motility the portion of adolescence in our invigoration that is where our handle opens up to things for us to explore. It is something that can always get us thinking of what”s incoming for us. When we habitus the consciousness in the things that surrounds us, it gives us solon air to eventually be uninjured within ourselves. Thus pointing us to move in a doomed message in our spiritedness, one move of our young phase is to suchlike the opposite sex, that is boy likes girl or vice versa, lover likes boy. So how do we truly demonstration grouping that we are involved in them in a way? Caper is the relational statement to that. Grouping seems to cogitate of dalliance as a negative proceeding when in fact it is not, that is involvement in the word sex.

There are actually many slipway to move flirtation in a lesser mode; you don”t impoverishment to be contentious on it. When you say flirtation, the intention comes to nous can be unpleasant, but with it as a teenager, it is concept of the exploration cognition in which we all go through. Advert that there are foreordained things that we can real hear that can work us along the way. Flirting can be a advantage of a well relationship or can end a bad one. So you mortal to be keen on using it. Here are 3 primary tips to Least Activity – When you say flirting combative things comes to nous but that can’t e’er be the pillowcase and in many situations not competent at all, beingness impalpable most your moves can get you lengths. A retarded grin, a tepid perception and viewing forgiving gestures can be thoughtful as formal flirtation. Sprig the intention of existence a somebody, les I always author if you see how to view on it.

Pay Attending on Emotions – Keep in watch that the hunch is e’er at share when you trek this end. Flirting is a move to get to bang the opposite sex, be reliable to supply grouping modify. Speak with affection and do not put all your nerve in. e’er forbear 30% for your consciousness. Put 70% on it and 30% for yourself to fastness your emotions in considerateness when something bad happens.

Keep it in Control – When your hunch is on discharge, you lean to go all the way, think to small things up. Emotions can be rattling such a serious objective to quantity with and when you harm someone’s emotion it can subdivision to perverse things. Always cook things in moderateness. Rest the level of the relationship at a limited variety to abstain things that you module sadness in the end.

Let me affirm you that it is alright to tease as far as you can rattling discipline it. Toying with ones emotions is dishonorable in umteen ways. You don’t requirement to be on the losing end when that occurs so, e’er cook things in a manner that you’ll be in a secure zona. Frolic can be fun but formerly you exaggerate it, it could be a difficulty. So be trustworthy how to hold it with maintenance.

Proms for the coming year are going to be exciting with elegant prom dresses 2009 bearing trend setting styles. Girls today consider proms as being fantasy nights with the desire to look their best and no less than a princess and need a dress that can shower elegance beyond limits. If dresses with a difference, is what you are looking for, then why not try out the latest astonishing styles in prom fashion 2009 that will mark your presence in once in a lifetime events such as proms. Leading apparel designers are into the process of creating new 2009 prom dresses for the approaching New Year with unsurpassed elegance. One can form an idea of the latest trends for prom fashion 2009 that will be discussed further in this article and can therefore; pick a dress incorporated with the style of their choice.

Sexy 2009 prom dresses bear beauty that is bewitching and there are varied types of trends that have subsequently emerged for the dresses. What marks the prom fashion 2009 is the question that is commonly asked and an answer to it definitely lies in the fact that 2009 trend setters include the strapless attires with beading, prom gowns with rushed bodice, outfits with low back, spaghetti strap prom dresses with tie on backs and elegant prom dresses 2009 with slits. 2009 prom dresses with fit to flare skirt having hand embellished craftsmanship and off course the halter favorites with metallic and bright colors are also catching up with the trend. Ruffle styles are the key trend setters including the short length dresses with bow adornments. Little black dresses have often been the style quotient for many but instead of the usual black color other vibrant hues are now in use for the attires. It won’t be wrong if we mention about 2009 prom dresses with sequence work and beading that are found in most of the attires creating flawless high fashion for the picture perfect look desired for proms.

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Let’s face it; in the fun department, baby boy clothing often just doesn’t measure up to the clothing choices offered for baby girls. From frills and bows, to lace and gingham, the variety of baby girl clothing is just plain cute, cute, cute – from the top of their bonnets to the bottom of their Mary Janes. But, in many cases, an outdated perception of baby boy clothing has actually perpetuated its negative image. When, in reality, baby boy clothing has made great strides in recent years due in large part to the commitment of cutting-edge designers.

The trend can be seen everywhere from retail outlets to high-end department stores. It seems the word is out; being a baby boy does not mean you are condemned to a wardrobe of strictly yellow ducks, red fire trucks, and blues of every variety. Rather, there seems to be an ever-growing understanding, that baby boy clothing – just like clothing made for girls – should be offered in a multitude of styles and colors from which to choose.

Today, in many stores, you can see firsthand the evolution of such clothing. Baby boy clothing now comes in a diverse palette of colors. Of course, baby boy clothing changes depending on the age of the child; newborns are most comfortable in that clothing provided in a layette – onesies, baby “sacks” with a drawstring at the bottom, one-piece sleepers, and receiving blankets. Baby boy clothing at this age should be comfortable and safe beyond anything else.

As baby grows, clothing styles continue to change to keep pace with activity levels. Older babies who are crawling are most comfortable in soft, elastic waist pants, onesies, and a simple shirt to match. But even at this stage you don’t have to sacrifice form for function. Classic khakis, deep hues, even designer styles you love in your size, are available as baby boy clothing.

Baby boy clothing takes on even more sophisticated styles as your toddler begins to walk around. You’ll find fashionable – even trendy – designs that incorporate comfort as well as style. And, as always, high-end department stores and small boutiques most often offer a line of formal wear baby boy clothing perfect for that special occasion.
When it comes to baby boy clothing, you don’t have to settle for the status quo. Check around to find those stores that offer creative designs that are out of the ordinary and full of personality.

For easy to understand, in depth information about baby boy clothing visit our ezGuide 2 Baby Clothing.

Congratulations on the birth of your little one! Now, you want to show the world just how precious they are, and why not do it with photo birth announcements? Well, actually, you may have come up with a number of reasons why not but we will show you a great solution that will allow you to experience the great benefits of photo birth announcements without all those pesky problems.

Reasons for Not Having Photo Birth Announcements

Well, we might as well come right out and say it – photo birth announcementsare usually expensive and time-consuming when you probably have very little money and time. It takes time and money to get all those photos printed, write in each one, stick all those stamps on the envelopes, address the envelopes, and then still send them out. Oh, and another problem is that you’re not even sure they will arrive after all of this.

As a new mom or dad your time is really precious. Baby is taking up a lot of it and you still need time to eat, sleep and shower yourself so time is one thing you do not have. Money is probably scarce after buying all those new baby items too so if you can save money you will. Well, as we say, this is USUALLY the case with photo birth announcements but not always and we will tell you why…

Baby Photo Birth Announcements Online

Today you can quickly and easily put up a web page for free (you can sign up for a free web page at Events Listed Photo Birth Announcements). Once your web page is up you can put up all the photos you like (after all, it is free – you don’t have any printing costs). You will also be able to add audio clips, video, other little notes and really whatever you feel would make your photo birth announcement just too precious and help express your excitement on the birth of your new baby.

If you are having one of those announcement parties to announce the birth of your new baby then you can also send out invitations via your web page and collect responses.

This also acts as a permanent reminder and you can keep it up as long as you choose – go back and add little notes about baby’s first words, take some videos of when baby learns to walk and put these up, and add to the web page as baby grows up. Then one day when these days are long past you, and your now grown child, will be able to look back at these precious moments with joy because of the way you have captured it forever.

Don’t get put off by the problems associated with photo birth announcements, instead just change your tactics – put all those photos as well as audio and video online and you will be able to make an even cuter announcement for free and still have time left for all those other things that make the life of a new mom or dad hectic. Remember, you also want time to enjoy the little one, so go now and quickly put up that cute photo birth announcement online.

Tamara Ford is the wife of an Internet Entrepreneur who specializes in Event Launch Marketing applying social media and internet marketing strategies. “I initially started writing to help my husband and have since become hooked”. If the content of this article interests you, you may be interested in reading another article I have submitted titled Baby Girl Birth Announcements or you may want to visit our site to learn more about our free web publishing tool for Kids Parties

Los Angeles, CA, USA August 15, 2008. Amongst the protests of antiwar and economic uncertainty growing stronger with no end in site, I would like draw attention to artwork from the 1960’s that has made an impact on my life. Remember the day glow posters and black lights? Remember the rock art from The Fillmore play bills we all saved? Remember the image from Hair the American Tribal Love Rock Musical? All these and more will always hang in my mind as remembrance of a time of innocence. Drugs, Sex and Rock and Roll were a part of most of the baby boomers lives when we were not afraid to get stoned and attend an antiwar peace protest. I will always remember protesting the Vietnam War in NYC and a blurry instance of running over the rocks and hills in Central Park when we were chased by police at a Schaefer Music Festival Concert in Central Park. We can all relive the experiences of going to Led Zeppelin, Edgar Winter, Johnny Winter, Black Sabbath, and Grand Funk Rail Road concerts…what a time we had….Quaaludes, Benzedrine, Tuinals, Seconals. Boones Farm anyone? Though the majority of of us are all clean and sober now…it is still fun to reminisce those great days.
The memories I have of the Hippie movement are resonating more today than ever with the revival of Hair the American Tribal Love Rock Musical free concert at Central Park’s Delacorte Theater. The message is resonating more strongly with the youth and young adults of the world today than perhaps ever before. When asked recently about the resonance and resurgence of this iconic symbol on today’s young adults, the plays legendary producer, Michael Butler, answered emphatically, “It isn’t coming back, it never left, Hair’s message is more relevant today than its ever been. Over 11 million people have seen the play, an estimated quarter of a billion have heard the music. It’s in dozens of productions around the world as we speak. In fact, a third of all American actors have had some association with Hair. Its been a force for good for almost four decades.”

The Age of Aquarius times of running around as free as a bird was a time in history when we lived in the moment without a worry in the world. Hair, the first ever rock opera, opened in 1968 and all of us would travel into the city form Long Island and New Jersey to participate in this communal offering giving us an insight into the decade of the flower children which we were all very much a part of. It shocked audiences for its lyrics and subject matter, as well as onstage nudity. The original script contains a nude scene, but it is not essential to the plot and individual productions may or may not choose to include it. The original script also contains some racist language which again, may be edited on today’s stage.

As reported recently in “USA Today” the New York based trend forecasting think tank, The Trends Research Institute, found something unique in American history, a new generation looking back in time for inspiration… specifically, the 1960’s.

“Hair” grew out of a new downtown ethos embraced by the radical – and charismatic – Joseph Papp, who in the mid-’60s was adding the Public Theater to his New York Shakespeare Festival in Central Park. After a brief run at a nightclub called Cheetah, the show was picked up by Michael Butler, heir to a Chicago paper fortune. He had it restaged by Tom O’Horgan, and readied for Broadway in 1968.

“As I look through my old posters, play bills, and concert flyers I’ve collected through the years I have such fond memories of growing up in the 60’s. As a young girl living in Southern California life was quite enjoyable. Saving my allowance to buy the latest albums, going to concerts…it was all so exciting. One of my most happy memories is seeing the touring production of the musical Hair…and I still have the play booklet. Over the past few years I have been collecting Hair posters from all over the world, in different languages from different Tribes! The best poster in my collection is the reproduction of the original from the 1968 Broadway opening There is something mesmerizing about the aura photographed around the actors head. I love the colors of this art piece of which promote brotherly love and world peace.”…..states Myrle Atchley from Mississippi.

There are many great 60’s pop artists; I love Andy Warhol, John Van Hamersveld, Roy Lichtenstein, and Bob Massy. There is something really special about the work that Russoli and Rodriquez created for Hair. They were experimenting the aura technique in photography. When approached by Producer Michael Butler with the idea to create the marketing for the new play, he introduced them to Steve Curry, one of the original actors in the soon to open Broadway production of Hair. The play opened on April 29th at The Biltmore Theater in NYC and sold out every night and ran for 1,750 performances. I was 16 years old at West Hempstead High School when my girlfriend’s mom took us into Manhattan to see the show.

Forty years later, I love the art hanging on my wall. Frame and hang and enjoy as art takes you through the memories and the journey of our lives.

Art imitates life and as we witness today’s youth letting there hair down and getting that what we lived through in the sixties parallels with what is happening in the world today.

On with the Hairy revolution.

Ace Ross – Friends of Cashmere – http://www.friendsofcashmereboutique.com

This is an guide to help anybody who needs to know if there house is truly haunted, remember there is help available if you need it.

What to watch for – and what to do about it.

You hear heavy footsteps in the upstairs hallway when you know no one is up there. Doors slam unaccountably. Commonly used items disappear and reappear without cause. The kitchen light turns on by itself. There’s the unmistakable scent of a strange perfume in the air.

These may be indications that your house is haunted. True hauntings are rare occurrences, and it may be difficult to determine whether or not any strange phenomena you are experiencing in your home might be due to a haunting. For one thing, no one really knows what a “real” haunting is – what causes it or why it starts.

The Signs of a Haunting

The first step is to determine, as best you can, whether or not you truly have a legitimate case of a haunting.

Not all hauntings are alike, and they may exhibit a variety of phenomena. Some hauntings feature a single phenomenon – such as a particular door slamming shut that occurs repeatedly – while others consist of many different phenomena, ranging from odd noises to full-blown apparitions.

Here’s a partial list of phenomena that might indicate that your house is haunted:

1: Does your home have cold spots…areas where there is no evidence of a draft, but you can feel one anyway? Oftentimes, spiritual activity is accompanied by cold wisps of air and chilling puffs against your skin. They can be a barely-noticeable occurrence, or very strong. Goosebumps can result. Pay attention, these can be very tell-tale.

2: If you hear ghostly footsteps, wait until the phenomenon has stopped (or until daylight, if you’re more comfortable) and try to duplicate the sound by walking wherever the footsteps came from. Was it really footsteps, or the house settling or shifting as the temperature dropped at dusk?

3: Do your dogs or cats tend to avoid or obsess about a particular location in your home? Animals are extremely sensitive to paranormal occurrences and “vibes”. They will often stare at a particular spot for no specific reason, growl at thin air, flee from nothing and bark at something you can’t see. Sooth the animal and get it to calm down. Take notice of when and where these things happen and see what other signs might be going on. Pay heed to your pets. They’re innocently psychic.

4: Do you find that friends or family mention feeling a particular way in your home or specific location in the home? Are they spooked at times? Do they talk about nighttime occurrences or feelings they have? Those who don’t live full time in the house will often feel more spirit energy than those living there. We can grow “immune” to the feelings in our own house. Pay attention to what visitors say.

5: Very common scents that are not usual to your surroundings can indicate some spirit activity. The sense of smell is extremely strong in relation to memory for human beings. We can smell a particular aroma and be taken instantly back to a strong memory we’ve stored that is connected to that smell. Perfumes, flower scents, earthy scents and cooking smells are some of the scents detected in relation to ghostly activity.

6: You can try meditation, open yourself to the experience of feeling the atmosphere of your own home. Clear your thoughts and breathe deeply, drawing in the ambiance around your house and filtering it through your senses. Does it feel charged with energy? Does it feel as though you’re not alone? Does it feel like there are emotions there that don’t belong to your or other inhabitants? These things all can indicate presences of spirit people and ghostly visitors.

7: If you have children, do they seem to have developed a imaginary friend. This is common we know with all children, but sometimes a spirit can attach itself to a child and draw on there energy. Spirits are especially attracted to children as there souls are pure and are very easily manipulated. Children will believe anything.

It is not uncommon for a child’s behavior to change dramatically. Signs of this maybe:

Constant Fatigue, this occurs by the spirit drawing on the child’s energy.

Increase in aggression

Lack of concentration, this may be their performance at school.

An increase in nightmares.

I relise this just sounds like a normal child.

The best way to tell though is by listening to your child’s conversations with so called imaginary friend.

Your child may use particular words or phrases or have knowledge of an event, that they could not possibly know.

Ask your child questions about who he/she may be talking to.

Is this person a boy or girl?

How old is he/she?

Where are he/she from?

What do you talk about? etc!

8: Do you see or hear doors slam shut by themselves.

This is very common and can be miss interpreted for a haunting. Check the surrounding area for any drafts. Put your hand around cracks in doors and windows and try to feel for any drafts that may come through them. You must eliminate any natural causes.

9: If an object seems to move by itself, check the floor or surface with a carpenter’s level. You can pick up a cheap one for under $2, and it’ll fit in your purse or pocket. If the object is lightweight, check for drafts, too.

10: If windows open themselves, check the hardware. Make certain they’re really closed. Try the window to see if the counterweight isn’t right, and the window opens too easily.

11: If windows close themselves, try propping them with a piece of pipe or other solid object. Ghosts pop those props out, gravity usually doesn’t.

Poltergeist phenomena is its own animal, so to speak. First, try to repeat the incident yourself, using natural means that could have occurred the first time. (A dish can fall off a shelf if the shelf is shaky. A dish cannot fly across the room and smash on the wall unless someone threw it, or rigged it.

For further information please visit the G.A.P.S Discussion Forum At: http://gaps.net.au

Your palms are sweaty, your throat’s dry, your heart’s beating faster and louder than a marching band – it’s quite likely then, that you’re about to give the all -important wedding speech. But before you drag your feet to the microphone like a person condemned to the gallows, take a little inspiration from our do’s and don’ts that will soon have you leaping onto the stage brimming with confidence.

The Father of the Bride’s Speech

Traditionally, the father of the bride’s speech is the first speech given. As father of the bride, it’s appropriate to welcome all the guests and thank them for attending.

Do
- Welcome your new son-in-law, and his parents into the family
- Let your daughter know proud you are of her and how lovely she looks
- Relate a humourous anecdote about your first impression of your son-in-law
- Offer advice and well wishes to the couple
- Propose a toast to the happy couple

Don’t
- Joke about polishing your shotgun or breaking bones if your new son-in-law hurts your daughter. Just remember: Threats (even in jest) + Weddings = Bad Atmosphere – no matter how protective you are of the bride.

The Father of the Groom’s Speech

Traditionally the father of the groom’s speech occurs after the father of the bride has made his speech.

Do
- Welcome your new daughter-in-law and her parents into the family.
- State how proud you are of your son and how pleased you are to see him married to his bride.
- Tell an anecdote about your first impressions of the couple, an amusing incident involving the wedding preparations or a memorable moment during the bride and groom’s courtship.
- Give advice and well wishes to the couple.
- Propose a toast to the happy couple.

Don’t
- Embarrass the bride and groom with your anecdote. At best, you’ll only get a few uneasy laughs and a whole lot of uncomfortable silence.

The Groom’s Speech

The groom’s speech usually comes next and provides him with the opportunity to respond to the wedding speeches already given by his father and father-in-law. Traditionally the groom would speak on behalf of himself and his bride. However nowadays, a bride’s speech has become commonplace also.

Do
- Welcome all the guests, with a special mention of those who have travelled a long way to be there.
- Thank the bride’s parents for allowing you their daughter’s hand in marriage and for welcoming you into their family.
- Give appreciation of the comments made by your father and father-in-law.
- Pay tribute to your own parents.
- Acknowledge all the people involved in the wedding preparations.
- Propose a toast to the bridesmaids and acknowledge their unique role as support to your bride during the wedding and reception.
- Thank your best man and groomsmen for their role during the wedding and wedding preparations.

Don’t
- Forget to thank and compliment the bride. It’s a common mistake many grooms make. Though many people need to be acknowledged for all the time and effort they’ve put into the wedding, she’s put in many hours too – especially in transforming herself into the vision of beauty that stands before you now!

The Bride’s Speech

It’s become quite common for the bride to give a speech on her wedding day, particularly if family members or close friends can not be present.

Do
- Thank all guests for traveling to be with you for the occasion.
- Describe the feelings of the day and how happy you are to be married to your new husband.
- Thank the groom’s parents for accepting you into their family.
- Pay tribute to your own parents.
- Acknowledge the help of bridesmaids and others for their role in the wedding and preparations.
- Acknowledge anything notable said in previous speeches.

Don’t
- Hog the limelight! Whilst it is your special day, the speeches aren’t supposed to be your domain.

The Best Man’s Speech

The one that everyone’s been waiting for! Usually the best man’s wedding speech is last and rounds off the formal speeches. However, the best man is often called upon to be the master of ceremonies and can sometimes be the first to toast the bride and groom also.

Traditionally the best man is either a close relative or close friend of the groom and is therefore in the unique position of having known the groom long before he met his bride. This means the speech is often the most intimate of them all. It’s usually light-hearted and fun and demonstrates his affection for the groom and happiness for the couple.

Do
- Thank all the guests for coming (particularly if you are also acting as master of ceremonies).
- If you are a friend of the groom, describe how you met the groom and relate a funny but not too embarrassing story of the groom that others will enjoy.
- If you are a relative of the groom, describe a childhood incident or something similar which may be amusing for guests to share.
- Talk about the groom’s life, experiences and qualities.
- Describe how happy you were when the couple met and began their courtship.
- Propose a toast to the parents of the happy couple.
- To finish, read out letters and telegrams from those who were not able to attend. If there are many, read a selection.

Don’t
- Get drunk. Many best men make the mistake of having a few for Dutch courage and get a little carried away. Slurring and stumbling is not attractive in a speaker.
- Relate incidents involving the groom’s past girlfriends. Nobody – especially the bride – likes to be reminded that they weren’t the only one.

Other Common Wedding Speeches:

Aside from the above wedding speeches, the respective mothers’ of the bride and groom and also the maid of honor may wish to give a speech also.

As mother of the bride, or mother of the groom, you may wish to stand with your husband while he is making his speech and add a few words of your own, finishing off by proposing a joint toast to the couple. Or you may have a full speech of your own prepared along similar lines to topics traditionally addressed by the father of the bride or father of the groom.

Similarly, as a maid of honor, it is common to make a speech similar to that of the best man but with the focus being on the bride’s qualities and experiences you have shared together.

Other Important tips:

Be mindful of your audience: There is likely to be a variety of guests from different cultural or social backgrounds and it’s important to keep this in mind when planning what you will say and the gestures that you use when delivering your speech. You may hold your palm up to stop people’s conversations and to get their attention but in Greece it’s the equivalent to giving someone ‘the finger’. A thumb’s up to an attendee of the wedding may be meant endearingly but to citizens from the Middle East, West Africa and South America it’s hideously offensive. When in doubt, always err on the side of caution. Refrain from swearing and keep your gestures discrete.

Make eye contact: As with all public speaking, it is effective to make regular eye contact with your audience. Making eye contact engages your audience and makes them feel involved in what you are saying. If you are using palm cards or written notes, make sure the writing is big enough to see easily. Rather than writing out the whole speech, consider writing only the main points so that your delivery feels natural and you are able to maintain regular eye contact with your audience.

Don’t rush: Speak at a normal conversational pace, or slightly slower. It is natural to speak more quickly when everyone’s attention is on you but try to resist this urge. Listeners will relax and hear you better if you speak calmly and at a steady pace.

Speak with heart: Weddings are a beautiful celebration of love and unity. Keep this in mind when you are delivering your wedding speech. If you speak with a full heart you will add to the feeling of love and auspiciousness which surrounds the occasion and your words will penetrate into the hearts of all those present.

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Samoa’s history is peppered with skirmishes over land and even a civil war or two. It was customary back then for those who were defeated in battle to retreat into the mountains.

This is why, after the tragic events of Samoa’s Black Saturday, the men of the Mau scattered to find refuge in villages far away from Upolu’s troubled coastline.

The women, however, didn’t.

According to Wikipedia, the resistance against New Zealand’s rule in Samoa continued in the form of a Women’s Mau, which carried on the ‘councils, parades and symbolic protests that the men now could not.’

Not much is recorded about this organization. After a two week search, we could only find a handful of references to it online.

It’s most likely that the Women’s Mau was simply an extension of our traditional village Women’s Committees.

Many of it’s members were wives of the Mau’s men. Not surprisingly, Rosebel Nelson, wife of Mau leader Taisi Olaf F. Nelson, helped to instigate this movement. Pacific journalist Michael Field found a touching letter written to her by her husband, which sheds more light on the role of the Women’s Mau in securing eventual independence for Samoa:

My contribution to the cause of our little country, Samoa, is as much as can be expected from any one man.

…said Nelson.

I am quite proud of the part you have played in the formation of the Women’s Mau and I agree with you that the Men’s Mau might have greatly weakened if not given in altogether but for the part played by the women under your guidance and leadership. . .

Anne Maxwell, author of the book Colonial Photography & Exhibitions, suggests our Women’s Mau demonstrated Samoa’s potential for democracy, especially at a time when the concept of women sharing rights and responsibilities with men was foreign to just about any culture.

Finally, as written records began to fail us, we found this photo.

Today’s independent Samoa owes much to the truly collaborative efforts of our ancestors. In their struggle for freedom, the story of our Women’s Mau – their determination to carry on the work of their men, for the benefit of their children – is a powerful reminder to us that our Fa’asamoa is indeed founded on love.

Hamo Geek Girl

Let’s face it, there will always be someone that will say negative things about you behind your back. It’s human nature and something that simply can’t be avoided.

There’s things your boyfriend or husband may say behind your back that if you
only knew the results would be devastating.

I hear it all the time when guys hang out and carry on conversations. They
start talking about what they hate about their girlfriend or wife, talk about
how they cheated on their mate, and even talk about what they don’t like about
their mate’s physical appearance.

I often think to myself in the middle of the conversation, “wow, if that poor
girl only knew what’s really going on”. See you have to take it from a guy’s
perspective. The truth is I hear things that most women will never hear simply
because I’m a guy.

The reason is because guys will often have an easier time letting loose and
sharing things with their guy friends about their significant other. They will
share things they would otherwise have a harder time communicating with their
mate.

It’s unfortunate, because of the lack of communication, some women are totally blinded to
what’s really going on behind the scenes in their relationship.

The best way to combat this is to keep an open line of communication with your
mate so he is not afraid to tell you what’s on his mind. If you always act
defensive or fail to keep an open mind in your relationship then your mate may
be more inclined to share important things about you with his friends instead
of with you.

Also you can’t live your life caring too much about what anybody thinks,
because no matter what you do, people are going to talk about you behind your
back. Matter of fact, the more successful you become the more negative comments
will come out of people’s mouths.

You also have to learn how to be insightful and aware about everything that
goes on in your relationship in order to protect yourself. Of course this is a skill that can always be improved and used on a daily basis.

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So what makes your spouse that someone special? The unique trait that attracted you to him or her, that made you believe in your future together when you said “I Do”. 

If you had to put pen to paper and write down some positive attributes of your spouse, how many things could you come up with?.  You are asking the question “How do I save my marriage?”, so it shouldn’t be too difficult coming up with at least 1 positive attribute about your spouse even if it is not as evident now as when you first fell in love.

It’s a great first step to take notice of the things that you love or loved about your spouse, the characteristics that make you smile and feel good about them.  This will give you a good basis to build on and it’s much nicer to focus on the positive than the negative isn’t it?

But there is one very important key that many fail to identify when having relationship problems.  This key is simply that ‘You’ have the power to save your marriage, and you also have the power to become a divorce statistic.  Even though you may not be able to change your partner’s current behaviour, you can choose how to respond, you can either react to the situation or you can choose to take responsibility for your actions and the way you want to feel.  This positive, self confident behaviour has an impact on your spouse whether you know it or not.

When you acknowledge the very powerful role you play in healing your relationship, you understandably have a distinct advantage over someone who leaves their marriage success to chance.  Therefore, the best person to save your marriage is You, not a therapist, not a book, not a friend, but You. These other things can guide you, inform you and support you, but you are sitting in the driving seat of your marriage and you are the best person to give it the attention and focus it deserves.

3 Simple steps to ‘How Do I Save My Marriage?’

1. Focus on the positive characteristics of your spouse
2. Acknowledge the powerful role you play in healing your relationship
3. Take responsibility for your actions and the way you want to feel

A happy, fulfilling relationship = Begins with You.

Carmen Alexander is a 34 year old Mum to 1 lovely little girl. Having experienced her own relationship challenges after 16 years Carmen understands the emotion involved and the mistakes one can make under this type of stress and heartache. Having succeeded in saving her marriage, Carmen now hopes her experience can assist others. For more tips on saving your relationship visit me at http://lotusletters.blogspot.com